And then there is the most dangerous risk of all — the risk of spending your life not doing what you want on the bet you can buy yourself the freedom to do it later.” – Randy Komisar.
A fancy car, a good job, a socially acceptable set and stone future laid out for me. Yet every morning society’s marionette would pull me in a direction I knew was simply not for me. I’d hear the ticking of my expiration clock and not help but wonder “what have I even done?”
“Happiness is defined by the house you have , the car you drive, the clothes you wear , the degree you obtain and the money you accumulate in the bank” a concept drilled into our heads constantly. So we grow up with the preconceived idea of what happiness truly is. Until one day we wake up to realization that perhaps we were fooled.
I remember waking up one specific morning knowing I cannot do this anymore; what is “this” you may ask ? I simply cannot live a life where happiness is always one step ahead and no matter what I buy or how much I earn , happiness remains an object or salary bracket ahead. At the time I probably didn’t know much but I knew things needed to change.
So I quit the job I once wanted so badly. I got rid of the car that was meant to bring me happiness and pretty much sold everything I owned. Minimalized my life to the point where everything I owned could fit into a single suitcase. Bought a one way ticket to a destination where I knew no one, had no prior knowledge of and simply left everything with no return date. In a single moment I completely flipped my entire structured world upside down.
I left my comfort zone, my structure and pretty much everything I knew behind. I remember looking out the window of a plane as the place I called home got smaller and smaller until it was finally no longer insight. In such a chaotic moment I found myself over whelmed with the feeling of peace. I had finally done what I knew i wanted to do since a child.
I truly found that as soon as I let go of the wheel and stopped trying to fight and control everything , life has this way of surprising you with adventure and memories, money simply can’t buy .By just embracing the unexpected and unknown, I’ve been lead down paths and to places I could only have dreamt of. Tested myself in ways I never have .Found the strength and courage to do things I probably never would have done a few months prior. Trusted myself in situations where I would previously have trusted others.
I was always someone who thought I needed a set plan. Thought I needed to follow a set schedule, as if I was some modern day robot. Day by day I felt my imagination and dreams start to tether away as i “grew up .I always felt I needed someone else to be happy but through solo travelling I have found immense comfort in my own company.
I realize now happiness had been there the whole time, in me and in the world around me. Happiness is not an inanimate object, happiness is not the size of my house and happiness is not the amount of money I hold in my bank. Happiness is found in one’s self, in the world around us, In the nature we continuously take for granted, happiness is found in the ability to help others, in the ability to love and be loved.
“The definition of happiness simply says serve others, including nature and live in harmony with nature, realize your human values and wisdom. When we talk about the human values we talk about love as the foundation of a house of happiness. There are four pillars that hold the roof. Those four pillars are RICH – relationships, integrated/truthfulness, compassion, humanity on top is a roof of trust.”- Dr Saamdu Chetri.